Did it ever happen to you that thinking back of a bad event brings first the feeling of the good normal situation then it takes you a slow second to recall the actual one?
I’m gonna make it clearer. Let’s take the example when a dear person dies or is hurt. You are in your room busy with something and the memory of this person pops in your head, in a flash second, you have the usual warm feeling of the familiar situation and a flash second later, the bad memory comes back and you feel a squeeze in your chest.
I’m wondering why does that happen? Is it because your “emotional” memory is faster? Is it a pure reflex and with time it will be gone? And if so, how much time does it need? A couple of years would do it?
And does it feel for a second that it isn’t even real? the bad thing? or you just wish it’s not?